People pleasing is such a huge issue that a lot of women and men struggle with. It's when we put others before ourselves in an effort to please them, get their approval, and do what they would 'like'. People pleasing is something I often describe to clients as similar to a "gateway drug" (so to speak) into unhealthy patterns of codependent behavior in our relationships and interactions. It causes so much frustration, discomfort, resentment, and bitterness.
The holiday season tends to exacerbate the harmful impact of people pleasing as people gather to spend time with friends, family, and hold events where people pleasing may actually be expected to 'keep the peace'. As much as we might engage in people pleasing to try and save our relationships with people, the reverse is typically the result; people pleasing destroys relationships in the long run, and it tanks our mental health and quality of living in the process.
If you're looking to cultivate and experience more respect, consideration, and honor in your interactions with others, people pleasing would be like the kryptonite that keeps all the great stuff you're wanting and needing away!
You see why it's so imperative we nip this unhealthy pattern in the bud--like yesterday??
I recorded an episode on The Queens' Corner podcast about How to Finally Stop People Pleasing where I share a few key pointers on where to start. I break it down for you so you can learn how to finally make some headway around this issue. Now we of course can't go over everything that we cover in the Self Care SOS Recovery Program, but be sure to check it out, (fellas, you will enjoy it too)! I'll link it again here for your quick reference.
Happy Holidays and Stay Safe,
Marie MFT
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